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Registered: 05-07-2021
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21-01-2022 10:09
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my life was changed forever! I got into the car
with a friend, who I find out later was under the influence, we’re
heading to his doctor appointment on the highway. He begins speeding and
just driving crazy. In his mind he thinks the car to the left of us had
served into our lane when in fact it was him that swerved into their
lane almost causing An accident. He starts flipping out, driving faster,
swerving, yelling at the people in the car to the left. Them he goes to
grab a cup and throws it out his window into the other car. When he
does this he ends up losing control of the car. All the while, I’m
screaming at him to stop and slow down and he’s not listening! So he
loses control of the car and we go from the third lane over on the
highway all the way to the right side, the breakdown lane, without
hitting any other cars. We go off towards the woods and the last thing I
see is us going straight towards a tree! No I wasn’t wearing my
seatbelt this day smh I end up waking up in the back seat holding onto
the back of the passenger seat, where I originally was, for dear life,
not realizing at that point that we were on our side. I guess wet went
off the road and flipped about 4 times and landed in the woods off the
highway. I try to move and find out I can’t feel or move my legs and I
can’t rally breathe so I just start screaming for help. Not even a
minute later I hear voices saying there is someone inside! A man, who
witnessed the whole accident had pulled over and came to check if we
were ok. He starts talking to me keeping me awake then the firefighter
showed up and crawled in behind me and held my neck until he got me the
brace. They end up having to use the jaws of life to get me out. For
some reason, even after feeling that I can’t move my legs and I’m having
trouble breathing, I’m so incredibly calm! Normally I have bad anxiety.
Once they finally can get me out and they put me onto that backboard,
that’s when the pain hit! It was unbearable! From that point on I was in
and out. I took an ambiance to one hospital, they didn’t have a trauma
unit to help me so then I took another ambiance into Boston an hour
away. I guess they put me into a coma and when I woke up 5 days and 3
surgeries later, I remember being able to move my toes. They day my
spine, from about the top of my shoulders all the way down to my bottom,
was completely crushed. When I got to the hospital I was paralyzed from
the waist down so this was a happy feeling to be able to feel and move
my legs! They took out 3 ribs to fuse my lower spine but the rest of my
spine, from top to bottom, is now titanium rods and screws and plates
and cages. My right lung ruptured and during surgery bled so bad I ended
up needing a blood transfusion. My right shoulder blade was broken in 3
places and is still. I also had a huge bump on my forehead along with
many, many bumps and bruises. The day after I woke up from everything
they got me up and with a huge back brace and a walker I took 5 steps!
Other than that I didn’t do much for the next month that I was in the
hospital. I could only lay on my back and was so uncomfortable and in so
much pain constantly. I’m 36 years old and needing to use a bed pan and
have people bathe me. So I stayed in the hospital for a month and then I
went to a rehab for only a week, to get my legs stronger and learn how
to walk again. Of course with my back brace and the walker. I’ve been
gimme 6 months now and everyday is the same. The pain is awful but I had
them take me off of the hard pain killers so what I take now never gets
rid of the pain completely it only makes it bearable. As of today I no
longer need the walker to walk but I still need all the railings in the
shower and the shower chair because I can’t stand long. I’ve lost my
hair now because of all the surgery and the hardware they put in, that
will be there forever now. I didn’t know you could lose your hair
because of all that, just one more thing to make me feel horrible and
upset. I haven’t been able to pick up my 3 year old in 6 months and it
kills me! I need help with everything and my life will never be the
same. I haven’t been cleared to drive and ill never be able to be a CNA
again like i was before the accident. I constantly relive everything i
can remember about the accident and it makes me so angry and upset and
hurt, so many things and i don’t know how to deal with it. I can’t come
to terms with the fact that this is how my life is gong to be from now
on. It’s a miracle I’m alive and that I’m not paralyzed anymore but I’m
still so mad this happened at all! I’ve cut out allot of people from my
life because of this and I’ve hardly left the house in 6 months because I
feel like everyone is staring and judging and like they know what
happened to me. I know that’s not the case but that’s how I feel so I
just don’t go out. Not to mention how scared I am to be in a car now.
I’m just having a ton of trouble trying to process everything. The
driver is facing 5 years jail time, he was found completely at fault,
obviously. He’s fine now he suffered a huge gash in his head but walked
away and I end up with a crushed spine with 65 staples in my back and
other horrible scars from surgeries and he’s fine and living life normal
again. It infuriates me! And the fact that he thinks he did nothing
wrong and even thought he would make money off this! Finding this site
and reading people’s stories has really helped. Most people just don’t
understand what I’m going through and I feel naff complaining or telling
people how I feel or what happened etc. I’m having a really hard time
with everything and no I haven’t been to a therapist, I know I should I
just don’t think that I’m ready. It would be great to hear from someone
with similar injuries as I haven’t foind anyone that’s had something
similar to my spine injuries and surgeries. I just feel like nobody
understands mms anymore and I’d rather not burden people with my
feelings or my pain that seems to never go away. I mean is this really
my life now? Why? I hate this…..
— Daneille

Registered: 23-08-2021
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21-01-2022 11:13
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Nice story

Registered: 05-10-2020
Messages: 192
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21-01-2022 11:15
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I am happy that you were lucky enough to survive. And it's incredible how the doctors were able to save your spine. I already thought that you would be in a wheelchair for the rest of your life. My friends also had an accident once, but they weren't as lucky as you. Two of them stopped walking due to spinal injuries. As it turned out later, they were incorrectly operated on by a young surgeon. Therefore they then turned to a medical malpractice lawyer [rflaw.net]. Thanks to this lawyer, they could get a lot of money from the hospital in which they operated. They are, of course, very disappointed that this happened, but they are glad that they are alive at all.
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